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I had an opportunity to speak at the Men's Mental Health Summit in Denver, Colorado and my topic was on the "The Mask Men Wear" I shared with a group of men that most men aren’t disconnecting because they don’t care — they’re disconnecting because they’re wearing a mask they believe the room can handle.

"A man’s greatest challenge is deciding every day the type of man he’s going to be, in his home, on his job/business, and in his community." (Joe Martin)

We are living in a time where men are more confused than ever about who they are, what they were created to be, and where they truly belong.

So, what are the 4 type of mask men wear?

The Protector:  “I’m fine. I’ve got it handled.”

A strong warrior — polished, intimidating, showing no cracks. This man learned early that vulnerability equals weakness. Preserve momentum, protect vulnerability. The belief that power equals protection. Others see aggression; inside he feels alone.

The Performer: “Let’s just keep it positive.”

Smiling, agreeable, avoiding depth... smiling and expressive, but fragile underneath.  This man hides pain with charm, humor, and busyness. Maintain harmony, keep approval.  The belief that love must be earned through performance. Others see playfulness; inside he feels unseen.

The Peacemaker: “It’s all good… don’t worry about me.”

Quiet, cooperative, avoids tension... A soft, neutral-toned mask — calm and expressionless, designed to blend in. He suppresses his voice and hides emotions to maintain stability. Maintain stability, avoid emotional chaos. Others see disengagement; inside he feels invisible.

The Perfectionist: “Let me think… let me perfect this first.”

Overthinking, “critical” symmetrical, and meticulously detailed. He copes with early criticism or failure by seeking perfection. Maintain excellence, avoid shame. The belief that being perfect is the only way to be accepted. Others see nitpicking; inside he feels inadequate.

So, the only question now is, "Which mask do you wear, because you think it what the room requires of you?

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